Category Archives: Randomness

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Planning. Confirming. Prioritizing.

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I like planning.  I like knowing things in advance.  Truth: I like spoilers.

I want to know what’s going to happen and I want to plan in advance.  I’m not really good at open-ended plans.  I need to know, do I need to prepare? How should I prepare? Should I eat dinner in advance? What time do I need to leave to get to the destination?  Should I plan out a block of my time for you?  Basically in my mind, when I plan something, it’s because I am setting aside a block of time for the other person/s because I am showing that they are important and I want to spend time with them without other distractions.

Don’t get me wrong. I can do spur of the moment.  I’m fine with that.  I like doing unexpected things. Surprises that catch you off guard are fun. But it’s when I want to plan something with someone and I get a noncommittal open-ended response that makes me feel like I have no idea what to do. And I don’t want to keep on nagging for a response.  RSVPs drive me INSANE this way.  I invited you because I thought you were important and I wanted you to be there.  If you can’t make it, that’s perfectly fine.  But the non-response drives me nuts because I don’t know whether to plan for you to be there.

Yes, I know we live in a society where everyone is busy and often schedules change so much that we don’t know what tonight will look like much less 3 weeks in advance.  Things happen that cause plans to change.  I get that.   I think the sticking point for me is, priorities.  When you set something as a priority and see something as important, you will do everything you can to make it happen.  And sometimes when I see people being noncommittal with me, it makes me feel like I am not important, especially when I know they will put something or someone else as a high priority.

Are you ok with people who make non-committal plans with you?  How do you deal when you see someone as a priority but then find out that they don’t view you in the same way?  Are you good with confirming?

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Officially now a member of the 3-0 club.

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I swear this blog is not going to constantly me talking about being thirty.  Otherwise this blog would have been named “A Girl Who Is 30”. And since it is not, I will not be doing this on a normal basis.  However as last week WAS my birthday and since this was a milestone birthday, I will indulge myself one more time talking about it.

I’ve entered the 3-0 club, Like I’ve been telling everyone who’s asked me “How does it feel to be 30?”, I still feel the same, though that might change when I hit 31.  Anywho, since it was the big 3-0, I had two birthday celebrations with my friends.  On my actual birthday, my closest friends and I went to an Italian restaurant where we had delish Italian food and a very entertaining birthday song thanks to our waiter.

Then last night we had the big party and celebrated with an 80s theme.  That meant folks came decked out in fluorescent colors, leg warmers, fingerless gloves, bangles, and slap bracelets.  We had the preppy look, Magnum PI, Marty McFly, Miami Vice, The Karate Kid, and Top Gun going…and that was just the guys! It was a blast.  We played Twister, socialized, danced to 80s music, sat around the fire pit while wearing our “Sunglasses at Night”.  My friends also clearly know I’m a geek based on the presents I got (Star Wars, Hawkeye, Doctor Who, Batman, Breaking Bad). I wonder where they got that idea from.

I think the best part for me the past week is that I realized how much my friends care about me.  There are times when I feel completely alone and it’s the most awful feeling in the world, but I know it’s not true; I know that it’s all a deception.  I clearly saw how much people wanted to be there for me.  From where I was a few years ago, this is a complete turnaround.  And realizing THAT was the best birthday present I could ever have.

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This is how the story begins

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Hello and welcome!

For those of you who know me, yes I have decided to start blogging again.  For those who are new, welcome to what I hope will be a delightfully different experience for you.  I was a book blogger for six years at Books, Movies and Chinese Food.  In the course of those six years , my life changed drastically and eventually led to me giving up blogging.  But I’ve missed it.  So I’m back again.

This time though, it’s a little different.  The latest trend in Hollywood movies is rebooted films.  According to Wikipedia:  “In serial fiction, to reboot means to discard all continuity in an established series in order to recreate the series’ continuity from the beginning.”  I feel that pretty much describes my life.  I’ve been given a second chance, an opportunity to have a reboot in my life. So that’s what this blog is.  Where I’m starting over and recreating everything from the beginning.

This new blog launches today, on my 30th birthday.  While I’m not where I originally thought I was going to be at 30,  I’m happy to be on this new adventure.   Tonight  I’m going out tonight with 6 of my closest friends to celebrate my birthday and it’s going to be awesome.

There are still a bunch of things I’m figuring out with this blog (ie I’m still working on tweaking the final design and look of the blog) but I’m ready to write.   I have a tentative schedule so you know what to expect.

Mondays – Randomness (whatever happens to be going on in my head. if you follow me on Twitter, you will understand)

Wednesdays – Serious Pondering (topics include faith, singleness, emotions, you know all those fun contemplative things)

Fridays – Geek Day! (where I talk about things that interest me:  movies, comics, books, anything Geek related)

Now before you all start shouting “tl;dr!”, I’ll close out today by saying, I’m excited to be blogging again.  I hope you’ll stick around for this next adventure in my life, and we’ll see where it goes from here.