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Knowledge is Power

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Growing up, I didn’t know what some words or phrases meant because my parents didn’t grow up in American culture.  I didn’t know what a lot of swear words were and therefore I would sometimes be tricked into saying words at school that apparently meant something VERY BAD. I also didn’t know certain hand signals meant bad things too. Example: I got into trouble for sticking up my middle finger. I was tricked into doing it and then the kid tattled to the teacher. The teacher didn’t believe that I had no idea what it meant to do that and put me in time out. To this day that annoys me that happened.

I also don’t like not knowing things when people are talking. I don’t like looking dumb so if I don’t know what something means and I don’t HAVE to know it in order for the conversation to continue, I make a mental note to look it up later. I don’t know if I’ve just experienced rotten luck with this but a lot of times I feel like when I ask to explain something, the other person gets frustrated and annoyed that I don’t already know. I did have several teachers do this to me growing up and this may have created some underlying fear to this day. So to prevent that, I try to make sure I know either know things in advance or I don’t let my ignorance show. I don’t want to be a bother by asking questions. I want to learn but I don’t want to feel like I’m annoying you because I don’t know it already.

I really do like learning things. This is why I read A LOT. If I start becoming interested in something, I usually spend the first few weeks trying to cream in as much knowledge as I can. When I want to get to know a person and I find that they like something that I don’t necessarily know much about, I’ll learn about it so I can keep up the conversation. This is how I rack up so much useless trivia in my head and can crush you at Jeopardy and Trivial Pursuit (and the occasional geek trivia night). I don’t necessarily TELL people I know things though. I’m not the type of person that acts like a know it all.

But I think the main reason I did this was to make up for all those incidents when I was a kid and got made fun of for not knowing things. And I wanted to fit in.

Though now lately I feel the opposite. I feel weird sometimes now that I DO know things that my friends don’t seem to know.

Example: My friends and I are a big fans of the game Cards Against Humanity. I also happen to know about 95% of what the phrases and terms used in the game mean. I’m not entirely happy that I know so much but going to public schools for my entire schooling career plus a healthy dose of lots of entertainment and having a wide circle of friends will do that to you. Nothing really shocks me in the game even when I do learn what 5% of those words mean because I have seen and heard worse in real life. I have a quite a number of friends who don’t know what a lot of the terms mean and it can be quite amusing explaining to them what they are. And yet, sometimes I wonder about myself, is it better to have been sheltered and not know these things? Is it better to be ignorant in some cases? Should I feel bad for knowing these things?

Also I realize that opposites attract and you don’t want someone who’s super similar to you because that would probably get boring all the time. But I tend to notice that the interests I have tend not to be desirable interests in the type of guys I want to date. They seem to go after women who don’t have these interests and therefore they have to explain everything to them. I realize guys DO like feeling knowledgeable of things and it can be a big ego booster for them to share that knowledge. It just makes me feel inadequate because I already know these things and feel like that’s a disadvantage for me. I don’t know necessarily if I would want to date a guy where I had to explain all these things to him and not be able to have a conversation on equal footing. This could all change one day and I’ll eat my words. But it’s frustrating because that’s one of those situations where I wish I didn’t know what I’d know.

It doesn’t really matter either way. I obviously don’t know EVERYTHING. And there are still times when I feel dumb compared to some of my friends because they know things that I don’t. And then I feel bad for knowing things that other people don’t because I wonder if it’s a waste to know these things.

It all comes down to just accepting myself. I am a person that has many interests that are not going to be the same as everyone else and who has had life experiences that aren’t the same as most people. It’s ok to know things and it’s ok to not know.

Because after all:

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Blast from the Past: How Would Jesus Enter a Blog Giveaway

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This isn’t a Thursday but I’m doing a throwback post that was on my old blog. This was one of the most popular non book review posts I posted on my book blog. For background information, when I used to run giveaways, I had the hardest time having people follow the simple instructions on just leaving a comment (the days before Google forms and Rafflecopter). Another blogger suggested, since I had a lot of Christian readers, to write about WWJD about entering blog giveaways. And thus, this was post was born.

So let’s go back to 2009:

If you’ve read my post about the Do’s and Don’ts of Contest Entries, then you know my stance on the corrective behavior about entering contests. Now I’m a pretty laid back person and I don’t complain a lot. Heck, I don’t even really talk about my personal life on this blog (except the wedding business but that’s because you all begged me for it. And because I wanted to show off a little 🙂 I don’t mind a little mistake here and there. I’ve done it before, everyone’s done it. No harm, the best is when you catch yourself and delete that wrong entry before I even notice. Kudos bars (do they still make those? I haven’t had one in years) to everyone who’s done that.

No, the problem lies with the people who continue to make these mistakes even though I’ve more than many times pointed out the rules of how to enter a contest on my blog. In case you somehow missed them, I always post my rules in bright red, and they are as big a font as I can get on blogger. They are also posted in the contests tab at the top of the blog, but here again for your added enjoyment.

People please….I’m in my mid 20s. You are giving me more gray hairs on my head than I need right now! I’ve found that most of these mistakes that happen in the Contest Do’s and Don’ts post occur whenever I post a Christian fiction giveaway.

BTW you may say, it’s such a minor thing, why don’t you just get over it, it’s not life and death. Ok you may say that but hey this is MY blog. Don’t like it? Well. I don’t know what to tell you.

Which brings the question: How would Jesus enter a blog giveaway?

Jesus is a mac user?? *Looking sadly at my PC.*

Never mind the fact that I do give away some books that Jesus wouldn’t enter for. I really don’t think he’d read chick lit, iffy on the YA (I bet he’d win at The Hunger Games), although I’m sure he’d love the Christian fiction. I wonder if Jesus would go for the edgy stuff or the Amish fiction? And why yes, Jesus would read fiction contrary to the popular belief that reading stories is reading lies and we shouldn’t’ be doing it. Jesus told stories aka parables. Are you saying then that Jesus told lies?

Would Jesus forget to leave his contact info when entering a contest? – Nope, because He always wants you to contact him. Whether you want to or not.

Would Jesus leave his mailing address for everyone to see? Ok well that one he might, but this may be the one time you don’t want to do what Jesus does. B/C while he wants all of us to go find him in his big house, I don’t think you want those random kooks at your house! To paraphrase Smokey the Bear, “Only you can prevent giving away your info to strangers!”

Would Jesus enter for a contest after it’s over and comments have been closed? Well even though Jesus is rather persistent and would like all his followers to be, I think when a door is closed permanently, it can’t be open again.

Would Jesus make sure he was entering the right giveaway and not enter on something that was not a giveaway? I think Jesus can tell the difference between right and wrong. Can you?

Would Jesus use an alias to keep entering giveaways? Well he does have that whole Trinity thing going for him but I really don’t think he’d use that for his advantage to win something (except maybe followers…I bet Jesus would have lots of people on his follower list, if he was doing a giveaway I bet you’d get extra entries for joining!).

So what’s the overall point of this post? The point is, I’m sorry for having to get all snarky and write a potential sacrilegious post like this. I know I may have offended some people and you will now all unsubscribe and hate me. I just feel like I’ve done as much as I can to make things as easy for people to enter and it still backfires on me. I feel bad having to disqualify and delete posts but if rules aren’t followed then that’s the way I have to go. If you can tell me how to make things more easier for you, please let me know.

And for the record, I love Jesus. Seriously. That’s why I’m so passionate about this blog, so I can give Christian fiction a good name and get the word out about it out there. Even when people made awkward pictures of him like this

 

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Where the sidewalk ends

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And now for your random post of the day.

Perhaps you can help me answer this because I don’t understand it.

Why do people walk on the street vs a sidewalk?

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Now before all you runners tell me about asphalt is better for your knees than concrete, I’m merely talking about just plain walking. Not running, jogging, bicycling, skateboarding, etc. Just plain walking.

There are so many times when I see a perfectly good sidewalk that isn’t going to end for a LONG time, isn’t cracked or damaged, or covered in puddles or snow and I see people choose to walk in traffic on the actual street.

What is the reasoning for this? This isn’t like I’ll see a random person do this, this seems pretty universal in all types of neighborhoods and cities. Is there some aversion to sidewalks that I am not aware of? Aren’t you worried about getting hit by a car? I can’t tell you the number of times at night I’ve nearly hit someone who was walking on the street instead of the sidewalk because I couldn’t see them until the very last second (and really, they should have seen me coming).

I even had a weird moment when I was sitting in my car waiting for a friend, and a group of walkers all chose to walk around on the street instead of the sidewalk on the other side. So for a few seconds it felt like I was surrounded as they all had to walk AROUND the car instead of just walking straight ahead on the sidewalk.

If anyone can answer this question, I would gladly appreciate it.

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You like me! You really like me!

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This is a sort of blog housekeeping post. I recently created a Facebook page for this blog.

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Why, you may ask? Well, I would like to reach out to more readers than I currently do now. For the past 6 months, my publicizing has been mainly through my Twitter feed and my personal Facebook feed. Unless someone came across my blog through random searches or I happened to post a link to my blog on a website, the odds of people finding and interacting have been limited to those folks I already know.

So I did a lot of research and looking into the benefits of creating a Facebook page. And there seem to be quite a few. It will mean double work on my end since I don’t want it to be just me reposting my links AGAIN. But I do hope that eventually it can become its own community as well.

I’ve been hesitant to individually ask my Facebook friends to like my page. I don’t want them to feel like they are getting spammed. I don’t want to them to like it because I’m their friend. If they aren’t genuine readers then liking my page isn’t going to do anyone anything. Though I was also told that it’s not spam if it’s something I’m proud of. I just know I’m guilty of ignoring requests to like pages from my friends of things I don’t know about and I don’t want to do that to other people.

That being said, I don’t want to have a dead Facebook fan page that gets abandoned after I ask everyone to join. Or as I said even just me posting up links to my blog all the time. I would like there to be interaction with people. Perhaps you didn’t want to leave a comment but you wanted to just quickly say something. Or perhaps you wanted to ask a question that didn’t seem right to email me. I’m trying to post something every day, maybe links around the web I found interesting that I wanted to share or created discussion.

If you want to join in on the adventure, click over here https://www.facebook.com/agirlwhoisageek and have at it. I wish I could give you all cookies but instead you’ll have to just accept my thanks in advance!

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Adventures in Babysitting

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Growing up I was a HUGE fan of the Baby-Sitters Club books.

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It’s really funny now that so many of the people I know would highly benefit from such a business. I mean really, why has there not been a group of high schoolers in the DC metro area not taken advantage of this business opportunity? You guys would be millionaires already. Just saying.

As a gift to some good friends of mine, I had offered a free night of baby sitting while they went out to the movies. Actually the gift was given during their child’s first birthday party. He didn’t need more gifts, but I wanted to give it to his parents because I figured they could use a night out/off.

I haven’t had a real baby sitting job since college days so it’s been over ten years but I wasn’t perturbed. It was like riding a bike again. Maybe it’s a sign of the times and things have changed since then, but do people not give out numbers for emergencies anymore? I was expecting to get the after hours pediatrician or neighbor’s and my friends were like eh, just call 911. Also I would be changing my first diaper in YEARS. Thankfully the parents got the messy diaper out of the way before they left so I didn’t have to deal with it. I was also told you can help yourself to anything in the fridge. I felt like I was 15 all over again. It was lovely.

Things went well for most of the night. The baby and I had a very nice time together. We ate Cheerios (he ate, and then fed me a few), played with a toy train, watch him get in antics with the dog, and I read several books to him. He’s an adorable baby and I love him to bits. And it was quite delightful.

But then it was time for bed…..and I couldn’t get him to go to sleep. I did everything his mom told me to do: give bottle, change diaper, switch to pacifier, etc. I leave the room……cries. Waited ten minutes hoping he’d calm down. No, such luck. I went back in the room and stayed with him for a little while longer. Leave room….WAILS. I wait about 20 minutes that maybe he’d stop? Nope. So as a last resort, I just grabbed an IPad and he curled up in my lap and we watched Baby Einstein together. Let me tell you, that thing calms down babies AND adults. It nearly put ME to sleep. (Also if one were to watch that on drugs, it’d be quite trippy.)

And I know that parents deal with this ALL the time. And it’s not the baby’s fault or the parents’ fault AT ALL. But when I couldn’t get him to sleep, I felt like the most horrible person in the world. The thought of “oh my gosh, I am never going to become a mom because I cannot get this baby to bed” kept rushing into my mind. Which is of course silly because I have been hearing countless times over the past few years of my friends unable to get their kids to sleep. But as this was really my first time doing it at the age where I can now really think about one day having babies soon, it almost was like getting thrown in the line of fire without training. And I feel like I failed miserably.

Before you say anything, yes, I have already been told by countless amounts of people that this is normal, that kids do this, that it’s ok, that “hey, at least you got to leave”, etc. But in a moment of truthfulness, not being able to put him to sleep brought out a lot of fears and insecurities in me. What if I never do have kids? What if I’m not going to be good with kids? What if my kids hate me? What if I hate my kids? What if other people judge me for not being good with kids? What if I’m never meant to be a mom or wife and this is God showing me this with a crying baby? It was whole thought rampage that went through my head and it frightened me.

On the plus side, his crying did tug at my heart so I know I don’t have that cruel side in me that would ignore crying. So there’s that going for me.

I realize that right now as I am single and don’t have kids, I’m more flexible in my life right now. And while I do hope very much that all that changes some day (sooner rather than later) as of this moment, I can use this freedom and bless my friends with it. I really don’t get anything out of it (other than hopefully being prepared for when I have kids one day) and nor do I really want to. I want to do this because I love my friends and this is a way that I can show love to them. I’m already prepared next month to help out another set of friends with their two and a half month old baby for the weekend. So need a baby sitter? Save time….call me.

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Women’s Retreat: Bacon, Diet Coke, Chocolate. And more bacon.

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Ah, the perks of a women’s retreat. This past weekend I went to one hosted by my church. I’ll talk more seriously about it on another date. Today is just my decompressing of obviously the most important highlights.

This is the second year that I’ve attended the retreat. In the past, I thought about going but then I (and probably like most 20somethings) thought “It’s mostly for moms and older women. They aren’t going to talk about anything I will relate to. They don’t know what it’s like to be in my stage of life.” Famous last words. The retreat was a hotel nearby so I didn’t feel the need to pay the extra $$ to get a room because as I’m not a mom I don’t feel the need to get away. I just commuted which sometimes felt awful (thank you time change).

Finding a table to sit at is like entering a high school cafeteria for the first time. Everyone seems to know each other and you’re the new kid. Should you join a table where people are already talking or should you start up a new table and see if anyone will join YOU? I ended up doing the latter. I was worried because it took about 10 minutes before anyone else joined me (oh gosh what if NO ONE does??) but finally the table filled up.

We got split up into small groups and I’m like…oh noes! I don’t know anyone in my group! It’s because of how I filled out my demographics! Wahhh! “Psh,” said God. “Trust me.” He was right. It was much good times.

Food at retreats is always so good and we’re always eating it seems. I mean, not having to cook the food yourselves is a bonus. And then having delish food on top of that? Win for everyone. And there was bacon on both of the breakfast buffets. BACON. BUFFET. Yep. I was happy. BACON. It’s also nice having a beverage bar of soda, tea, coffee WHENEVER YOUR WANTED. One could get spoiled. I may or may not have had more Diet Cokes this weekend than I normally drink. This would explain the not being able to go to sleep.

All in all it was a great weekend. The speaker was fabulous and there was lots of time to catch up with old friends and make new ones. Learned a bunch of new things (including if you cram too many women into an elevator, it will not move up) and was able to share my own experiences as well.

Like I said, I’ll share some of the more serious things I learned on a later date. Right now I’m just missing all the bacon. And the fact that there is not a lunch buffet waiting for me. I do have Diet Coke though…..

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So how many books did you read this year?

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The question in today’s blog title can bring fear to who is being asked that. So as you know (or maybe you didn’t?) I used to be a book blogger. If you don’t know what this, I read books and blogged about them. I read my own books, books I got from the library, and books that were sent to me from publishers, authors, publicists, etc. That mean I received A LOT of books. That also meant that I READ a lot of books.

I’ve always been a voracious reader ever since I was a little kid, thanks to my mom teaching me how to read when I was 3. I’ve always had a love for reading even when it was uncool. Books have always been a good friend to me. So when we did the summer reading programs at our libraries, my sisters and I were always reading insane numbers of books just because we liked doing it, not for prizes or bragging rights.

During the book blogger years, I read a lot. Part of it was pressure due to being a book blogger, part of it was to escape real life circumstances, part of it was due to having a job where I sat by myself in a warehouse alone for hours during the day waiting on things. So adding up all those factors and there were several years where I read over 400-500 books a year.

I bring this up because last week Book Riot released the results of a survey about reading habits and poo hit the fan because of what was revealed: that someone had read 1500 books last year. People couldn’t believe it. Were they reading kids books? Were they lying about this? Because NO ONE can read more than 300 books a year. People were complaining that whoever did this made them feel bad about their own reading habits. Comments were going on for a while both on the post and on the Facebook post as well.

And it made me realize, this is WHY I really don’t like talking about how many books I read anymore. Because people always accused me of lying. People always assumed I read kids books. Just because THEY couldn’t read that many meant I was lying. I made THEM feel bad about how much they didn’t read. It goes on and on.

I don’t know if that person who said they read that many books was lying, truthful, or what they read. But kudos for them. I mean since it was an anonymous survey we have no idea who it was and I’m not quite sure how on earth we can even really prove it. You shouldn’t feel bad because someone else reads more than you. It’s never been a contest, some people can just read fast, and it doesn’t matter what someone else reads. So what if they read 1500 kids books and you read 2 books and one of them was War and Peace? Are you a better person than they are? Or what IF they did read 1500 books that were 500 pages each and all non fiction historical and scientific research books? Are they a better person than you?

Even now, and even though I read wayyyyy less than what I used to, it’s only with other hard core readers I really like discussing books with. I’ve learned that books are very subjective to people and even though I’d love to share with real life friends about what I’ve read, sometimes I just can’t. I don’t want to feel guilty about what I read, nor do I want to make others feel guilty. It’s not that I’m keeping things secret, it’s just sometimes you can’t share everything even with your closest friends. That’s why social media was invented. So I can go on Twitter and find those who understand.

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“You’re going to tweet about this, aren’t you?”

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I’ve been a Twitter user since 2008. I would have to say it’s my main form of social media. This post is not intended to try to convince anyone to use the service. I figure at this point, you’d use it by now if you wanted to.

I joined September 30, 2008. This was my first tweet.

I wish people on Wheel of Fortune wouldn’t buy vowels. Just take the risk and spin!

Wow. That’s really deep.

I have over 42.8K tweets (and I’m convinced that Twitter deleted a bunch of my tweets several years ago). Yes, I do tweet A LOT.

A lot of people still question the point of twitter. “Why do I care about what people eat for breakfast?” It’s amazing after 6 years of using twitter, this is STILL the number one response I get when people talk about why they don’t use the service.

Twitter is obviously so much more than that otherwise it would have shut down years ago.

I use it differently than how I use Facebook. It’s a different audience. Twitter is public. Facebook is more private. The whole reason why I started using Twitter was due to the fact that I was a book blogger and I wanted to get more involved in the community. And it helped me a lot to learn about book blogging, gain new friends, get connections, and help me to learn about social media in general. I see it as a marketing tool and as a way to brand yourself.

I’m not going to lie, when I see books and articles for the casual user on how to use Twitter, it kind of makes me laugh. It’s really not that hard. I jumped in not knowing at all if I was doing it right and I’m still using the service five and a half years later. Though I will say that on a marketing standpoint, there are several folks who still have no idea how to use it correctly and again, it’s really not that hard. You just need to put in some time and effort. This “10 horrible Twitter tips” list from Jon Acuff is quite accurate.

There are times when I’ll live tweet certain events (sports, TV shows, awards shows) and it brings a sense of togetherness with people all over the world. For example, the last two weeks I’ve been live tweeting during the Olympics and even though I’m not physically with people who are enjoying it as much as I am, I’ve found there are other all over the world who share my interests.

Twitter is also good at realizing you’re not the only one with unique thoughts. That thing you came up with yesterday that was so clever? Someone tweeted that 6 months ago.

I follow over 700 people and have over 1.2k people follow me back. I don’t just randomly or automatically follow back. The people I follow I have some vested interest in, where I will interact with them or I am just really interested in what they have to say. The people who follow me back, if I don’t know you at all I’m not going to just follow you back if you’re never going to talk to me. This is why I get a lot of people who follow me, see I don’t follow back and then they unfollow me. I’m not building up your numbers, folks. Tip: I like really witty folks.

I actually really like interaction. There are some people who just tweet things but never respond back to anyone. Sure, celebrities do this all the time (billboards as I like to call it) but sometimes I wonder about normal folk who do this. It’s called SOCIAL media for a reason. Why do you use this service if you don’t want to be social? Regarding the celebrities, some of them do it well with fan interacting, ,some don’t at all. I talk to a lot of authors on Twitter who follow me back so it’s pretty fun. My current goal is to have Josh Groban reply to me. The trick appears to be timing and being witty. Still working on that.

But for companies that use Twitter well, it’s a great way to do customer service and I do judge companies on how well they handle social media.

Sometimes I wish that I was a celebrity so that no matter what I said people would find it worth of a reply, retweet, or favorite. But then I realize, I don’t really want everything I say to be judged by someone. I also don’t want my @ feed getting clogged with useless stuff.

I will never say I’m an expert at using Twitter. There are so many things still to learn about using and maximizing it to its fullest potential. Also while I use the service a lot, it’s still not a 100% representation of what I’m like in real life. Pretty close, but if you get to know me in real life, slightly more awkward but just as cool.

If you would like to follow me on Twitter, you can find me at @beatccr. Be warned. I can be slightly snarky, I talk about a lot of random things, and you’ll be bombarded with awesomeness. But if you do, it’ll be worth it. I swear.

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Random Thoughts about Traveling

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I was gone on a business trip last week. I don’t get to travel that much so even though it was just to Akron, I thoroughly enjoyed it. I do enjoy getting away and seeing new things. Ironically though the most difficult part about traveling for me is the planning beforehand.

I know that’s weird coming from me, the person that likes to make sure everything is planned out beforehand. But I actually get really stressed out when planning for trips. It’s one of the few things that I’d rather someone else handle and I just go along with the flow. Even packing is way too stressful for me. What if I forget something? What if I lose my luggage? What if I didn’t bring the right kind of clothes?

Plane rides and airports can be fun. I take advantage of those cookies that are offered on Delta flights and free sodas? Woo! And thank the Lord for charge stations in the airport because my phone likes to suck the battery dry when I travel plus free WiFi makes a four hour delay go a lot faster. I got stuck in the “expedited” security check point which was supposed to go faster because it meant I didn’t have to take off my shoes or take out my laptop. But really, it made everything slower because most people choose not to read the signs that say you don’t have to do this. To make up for this, I was given that awesome in flight safety video that Delta now has out.

Some folks don’t like sleeping on unfamiliar beds. With me, I say bring it on. Any bed is basically going to be better than what I sleep on now so I pass out as soon I get on the hotel bed. Plus there are always a billion pillows which is never a bad thing.

I also get excited about discovering new places to eat at when I travel. I can understand going to grab a quick meal at a nationwide chain if you’re in a hurry. But if you have time to spare, why on earth would you go eat at places you can visit at home when you can try something new? Unless, of course you’re one of those kinds of people who hate trying new things and are picky eaters. As for me, I love to try out new things, even though admittedly I always get a bit nervous because I don’t like it when it’s obvious I’m not one of the locals when ordering.

Seeing new sights is always fun. Even if it’s just a local museum of what the town you’re in is famous for. There’s no shame in doing the big touristy things especially if you’ve never been in that city before. Just because everyone does it doesn’t mean it’s not cool if you go see it too.

As dorky as this sounds, one of my favorite things about traveling to new places is being able to check in on them on Foursquare. This is the best time to rack up points and get badges especially if none of your friends has been to those locations. It’s also a really good way for me to keep track of everywhere I’ve been.

So that’s all that went through my head as I traveled this past week. Hopefully I’ll get to do it again soon. Anyone up for a road trip?

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Deborah’s random ramblings of the week

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I was reading Boundless the other day, and in their podcast section, there was an advice question that caught my attention. The writer of the question wondered if her love for theology and doctrine was a turn off to guys. She said it felt like all the guys she knew were going for girls who weren’t so spiritually deep. And she wanted to know if there was something she was doing wrong because of this. The answer was basically be yourself, keep doing what you love but don’t be a know it all.

I didn’t really find this answer satisfactory but it did get me thinking. In general, do we become attracted to people who share our interests or those that are opposite of us? Do we want to share with someone our experiences or have to explain to them all the time about it? Even when it comes to just our friends, do we gravitate towards what we know or look for something completely different?

Sometimes I feel weird because I know certain things and no one else does. Usually it’s because no one else wants to know these things but I wanted to learn more about it myself. I don’t want to be a know it all and I try very hard to not always tell what I know unless it legitimately comes up in conversation. That’s the other thing, I learn things so I CAN join in the conversation instead of just sitting there not knowing. But sometimes I wonder if people would rather just be asked so they can talk vs actually talk with someone who is on their level. I feel really weird sometimes that I want to know the things that I do. Which aren’t that weird to be honest. Just they tend to favor certain people over others.

But you know what? Overall the answer to that question is the right one. Be who you are. Like what you want to like. And you will find people who appreciate what you do like. Do not change just to make people like you. And never feel inferior about yourself because of who you are.