I love trying new things. I’m all about getting out of my comfort zone and trying out stuff.
I just hate trying new things for the first time by myself.
I’m just going to state that people who are in relationships have it so much easier. If you can convince your partner to go along with you, the battle is already half over. Then you at least have one more level before you have to resort to friends and family. If you’re single and you can’t get any of your friends/family to go with you, you’re always going to be doing things on your own.
Case in point.
When I go back to my hometown for the holidays I’m looking forward to picking up some local beers that I won’t be able to get back in the DC area. I’m also looking forward to going to a local brewery so I can try out some of their beers plus it’ll be good to catch up a friend that I haven’t seen in a long time.
However I’m dreading the whole situation. Why? Because I’m worried about going by myself and not knowing what to do. I don’t like that feeling at all. We all know how much I love spoilers. And in scenarios like this, I want to know exactly what’s going to happen so I can avoid looking and feeling awkward as much as possible. Even just the thought of trying to figure out where to park and finding the right entrance is terrifying because I’m already admitting I don’t know what I’m doing and I have to do this alone.
See, I’ve worked in customer service. And I know from personal experience how much people hate n00bs who don’t know what they’re doing when everyone else seems to have their act together. People hate it when you’re standing in line and someone doesn’t know the correct way to order something and takes up too much time trying to figure it out. Patience is not a strong virtue among a lot of folks. I don’t like doing things new by myself because I’m afraid of acting like a fool in front of regulars. Sure there are some people who like helping newbies but there are also those who hate it when someone tries to enter what’s already been established.
I honestly can get a panic attack from worrying about this too much. I know that some of you could care less what other people think.
So I envision one of these three scenarios happening when I try to go visit the brewery:
- Scenario A: I get to the place but because I’m panicking about just trying to figure out where to park, I end up turning around and going home. I mutter to myself, It’s just not worth it, and make the drive all the way for nothing.
- Scenario B: I get to the place. It takes me a while to figure out parking but I do it. I get inside and I’m not sure what to do and everyone else seems to figure it out. I don’t recognize anyone there and I feel very uncomfortable but I still keep going. I keep looking at menu or whatever is handy that I can read and feel like this is the worst thing ever and how much I hate being a shy extrovert and wonder why on earth I ever thought this was going to be a good idea. I finally figure out how to order my flight of beers and drink alone and check everything into Untappd so that it looks like I’m just fiddling with my phone the entire time. I either don’t see my friend at all or they ignore me completely and I feel very foolish. I wait around after I’m done in hopes that maybe someone will talk to me but no one ends up doing so. Eventually I leave feeling relieved that the whole ordeal is over but glad that I made it and vow never to do something like that again.
- Scenario C: Everything goes fine, I’m not awkward at all, I manage to find people to talk to, I’m witty and charming, end up having a good time and wonder why on earth I was worried so much about all this?
I have no idea what’s going to end up happening. It’s a game time decision.
A friend told me to just get rid of my training wheels (other people) and do things. We’ll see what happens.
2 thoughts on “Stop being so scared and just do it!”
I love forcing myself out of my comfort zone. It’s always scary, awkward, and uncomfortable at first, but you know what? I always adapt, and in the end, I have a wider perspective, I’m more open-minded, and have a blast during the experience.
The magic truly does happen outside the circle
Oh I would not worry too much about it – I worked in customer service too (retail and food) and I never was annoyed with individuals that were innocently clueless (how can you be mad at someone who is trying to be polite and learn?); maybe it is my southern compassion. I think the “noob” mentality is for online trollers and arrogant hipsters (both not great people).
And I think if you approach the situation calmly you will be fine and get scenario C. Just go to the brewery as a date night with your self and make conversation when you want. Monthly I go on a solo date night (I bring a book just in case I feel out of place, but try to resist the urge in reading). I think it is important to be independent , self reliant, and comfortable alone. I mean if you can’t spend time with yourself why would anyone else want to?
Anywho – sorry for the trailing thoughts. I am sure the visit will go great and I hope you find a new favorite beer! Also love the photo (reminds me of the ‘Bad Friend’ episode from GIRLS)